What to Expect Postpartum as a Surrogate
Postpartum experiences for surrogates can vary widely, just as they do for biological mothers. Here are some general aspects you might expect:
1. Physical Recovery: You'll experience physical changes and recovery similar to those after giving birth, including vaginal bleeding (lochia), soreness, and possibly perineal discomfort if you had a vaginal birth or incision pain if you had a cesarean section.
2. Emotional Changes: Postpartum emotions can be complex. Some surrogates feel a sense of fulfillment and joy in helping another family, while others might experience a range of emotions, including sadness or a sense of loss. Hormonal changes can also contribute to mood swings.
3. Bonding: Unlike with their children they carried previously, surrogates likely will not experience the same bond with the baby they carried. This can be both a relief and a challenge, depending on your perspective and personal circumstances. You may still feel attachment, but it's likely to be different from what you may have experienced previously.
4. Breast Changes: If you breastfed the baby or plan to pump, you might experience engorgement, leaking, or discomfort as your milk supply adjusts and eventually dries up. Wearing a supportive bra and using cold compresses can help alleviate discomfort.
5. Support Needs: It's crucial to have a strong support system in place, including friends, family, and possibly a therapist or counselor who understands your unique situation. Being a surrogate can be emotionally taxing, and having people you can lean on for support is essential.
6. Physical Changes: Your body will gradually return to its pre-pregnancy state, but it may take time. Be patient with yourself and give your body the rest and care it needs to recover fully.
7. Future Fertility: Most surrogates are still able to have children of their own after being a surrogate, but it's essential to discuss any concerns or questions about future fertility with your healthcare provider before you choose to move forward as a surrogate.
Remember, every surrogate's experience is unique, so what you go through may differ from others. It's essential to prioritize self-care and seek support when needed. Please reach out if you have questions or concerns Our team is always happy to share their personal experiences. Click here to schedule a phone consultation with an experienced surrogate!