how to Find a Surrogate

Your relationship with Bright Futures Families begins with a no-charge consultation. You meet with one of our staff members via phone or video. We tell you about our program and explain how matching with a surrogate works. We discuss insurance issues and financial matters. Most importantly, you tell us what you’re looking for in a surrogate and ask the questions that are important to you.

Heads up: the initial consultation can last quite a while and may get emotional. We allow as much time as you need to share your story and to make sure we understand your history, desires and needs around this very important decision.

Once you decide to partner with us, you sign an agreement with Bright Futures Families called the Agency Agreement.  You also fill out an application that lets us get to know you better.  Lastly, you meet your personable, professional and altogether likeable case management team from Bright Futures Families.  

We’re very particular about surrogates. They’re the cornerstone of a positive and rewarding experience for everyone involved. The women we work with are generally 21-39 years of age. They’re in good health, with no psychiatric illnesses or sexually-transmitted diseases. These women live in financially secure, happy and stable environments. Their spouse or partner fully supports their decision to be a surrogate, if applicable. Our applicants undergo medical and psychological assessments and every adult living in their home gets a background check. Based on these screenings, we select women we deem supremely qualified.

We take your list of preferences and match you with a surrogate, then send you her profile. We facilitate a meet-up by video. The match is hugely important. Don’t be shy: if the surrogate we recommend doesn’t feel like the right fit, tell us. We’ll happily go back to the drawing board and create a new match. You also won’t be alone! At least one member of our team will be at your match meeting.  A match fee —discounted by 20 percent for active-duty military personnel—is due at this time and monthly installments of the agency fee begin.

If you’ve been working with a fertility doctor, you may know that reproductive endocrinologists require that all parties undergo a complete medical screening before beginning in vitro fertilization (IVF). Medical screenings also precede the legal agreement with your surrogate.

Both intended parents and the gestational carrier will have independent legal counsel to answer their questions and help them fully understand the legal issues. Experienced attorneys that practice law in the state the gestational carrier will give birth will represent each side’s interests as all parties come to a mutual understanding and agreement on all legal aspects of this incredible journey. Gestational carrier's attorneys fees are covered by the intended parents.

A licensed reproductive endocrinologist oversees and manages the in vitro fertilization and embryo transfer in their IVF clinic. We coordinate the IVF process with your selected clinic. Your surrogate’s travel expenses are your responsibility. We’re involved as much or as little as you wish.

Yay, the news you’ve been waiting for! We offer support throughout the pregnancy as you and your surrogate prepare for the baby’s arrival. Schedules, medical appointments, insurance guidance—we’re available to help when and how we can, just say the word.

Your legal team files the documents with the court that establish your parental rights and stipulate that your name(s) appear on the state’s birth certificate from the start.

Every parent remembers the moment they held their baby for the first time. The experience is unforgettable. We’re here to help in whatever ways we’re needed in the days leading up to and after your child’s birth. Heads up: we love getting pictures and holding babies.