Delivering a surrogacy birth at home is generally not feasible, prioritizing safety due to potential complications.

Surrogacy is often shown as a highlight reel—but there’s so much more behind the scenes. From the long waiting periods and emotional highs and lows to the physical demands, changing relationships, and post-birth transition, this blog shares the real, human parts of surrogacy that people don’t always talk about.

If I’ve had an abortion, can I still be a surrogate?

• The main update confirms that having had an abortion does not disqualify someone from being a surrogate, provided it is not the most recent pregnancy.

• Amanda clarified the policy that surrogates can have had an abortion before but not as their latest pregnancy.

• Medical records must be collected to check for any complications such as significant blood loss.

• This ensures the surrogate’s health status is clear and safe for the process.

• The guidance supports expanding the surrogate candidate pool without compromising medical safety.

• The surrogate’s time off for medical appointments is managed through a combination of personal leave and compensation structured in the gestational carrier agreement.

• Surrogates must attend multiple appointments including medical screening, embryo transfer, monitoring, and OB visits throughout the pregnancy 

• Clear legal review of lost wage clauses is critical to avoid surprises during the surrogacy journey 

Hi everyone. Ashley Old, Case Manager with Bright Futures Families, here with your Ask a Surrogate expert question. This week's question As a surrogate, how am I paid and how often? Great question. As a surrogate, once pregnancy is confirmed, you're typically paid in monthly installments. You will also receive additional payments for specific milestones and expenses along the way. Thanks for the great question.

Families choose surrogacy and other paths to parenthood for many personal reasons—including medical need, LGBTQ+ family building, and the desire for a biological connection. This blog explores surrogacy, adoption, IVF, IUI, and reciprocal IVF, and why every family deserves the freedom to grow in the way that feels right for them.

• The main point is that clients can work with Brightff.com families even if they already know their gestational carrier or intended parents.

• Jenn explained the Indy Match program allows independent matches while still providing full agency support from screening through birth.

• • The agency handles all medical screening for the carrier just like in the full-service program.

  • Support continues from the moment of matching until after the baby’s birth.

  • Monthly agency fees start only after medical records are approved by the clinic.

  • This approach reduces financial risk for intended parents if records are not approved.

Matching with a Gestational Carrier (GC) in a state with abortion restrictions can add legal, medical, and ethical complexity—but it doesn’t automatically prevent surrogacy. This guide helps intended parents understand what abortion bans may impact during a surrogacy journey, including how pregnancy management decisions (such as medical complications, selective reduction, or termination) are typically addressed through early communication, detailed contracts, and coordinated care planning. Intended parents will learn what questions to ask before matching, how legal protections like conflict-of-law clauses and parental rights safeguards may be handled, and why alignment, transparency, and experienced agency and legal support are essential when navigating surrogacy in restrictive states.

What surrogates should know about travel after delivery.

Pumping as a surrogate is an incredibly generous and thoughtful gift to the baby and their (no longer intended – actual!) parents. Whether you're pumping for a short time postpartum or planning an extended pumping journey, here are some helpful tips and guidance specifically for surrogates.

Key questions to ask during a surrogacy match meeting for a strong partnership.

A breakdown of commonly overlooked costs in the surrogacy journey.

Children’s books can be a beautiful way to help young minds understand the story of surrogacy — whether they are the children of intended parents, surrogates, or family members with questions of their own.

An overview of postpartum counseling and emotional support for surrogates.

A thoughtful conversation about post-birth emotions, boundaries, and healing for surrogates.

Choosing the right egg donor is a big deal. It’s about more than just matching physical traits; it’s about imagining a future, a family, and a life filled with joy. But with so many donor profiles to explore, it can feel a bit like dating, only with way more paperwork! So where do you start?

A clear explanation of why injections are part of the IVF process for gestational surrogates.

Just like any pregnancy, restrictions are to be expected. What restrictions can surrogates expect that differ from their own pregnancies? Callie has the answer.

In this Ask a Surrogacy Expert video, Bright Futures Families team member Janelle shares whether potential gestational carriers can apply to become a surrogate through our surrogacy agency if they are currently breastfeeding their own children.

The journey of growing a family through surrogacy is complex, emotional, and full of moving pieces. Each story is unique, shaped by countless variables that bring both challenges and rewards. What is consistent, however, is that surrogacy is a group effort — truly, it takes a village.